It's a nightmare. Wake me up.

[koalada]

I have never argued the point, that I have my part in this mess. I do recognise my part and I take full responsibility. But the A was her decision. I can even understand her "falling in love". But should I just give up and say: "It is all my fault, that you fell in love"? Is it not enough to blame myself for my part of this mess? Should I also take the responsibility for the A? We talk about 20yrs of living together and most of the yrs were good. Am I so wrong when I think, that this should be dealt with more respect toward the partner?

I am convinced, that the A is her main reason for breaking up. It was the wrong man at the wrong moment, meeting her needs for affection and romance.

And yes, sometimes a straight talk is helpful, but right now it just feeds the pain. Sorry, but I am quiet touchy at the moment. Please do not get me wrong.