Sherman, I would very much take your time on this one. Your W has been particularly difficult in recent months, and IMHO you should ensure that there is a genuine and sustained turnaround on the part of your W. That she is genuinely remorseful about what has happened and that she will do what it takes to reconcile.

I think from recent events, and from your convo today with your W, you may be a long way from this state of affairs. And TBH, returning to the M sounds like a plan B for W because OM got a bit 'weirded out.' What if he decides in a week's time that he's not so weirded out after all? What will your W do then?

What has she learned from all of this? What does that mean going forwards? How can you best protect yourself and your son from possible future hurt?

Think very, very carefully about this and don't make any quick decisions. I'm no vet, and you may want to wait and see what others advise. But I'll be honest, having read your sitch in recent weeks, the thought of you and your W reconciling at this point makes my heart sink. Sorry to be blunt, but JMHO.

Good luck to you whatever you do decide.

Last edited by Toots; 04/06/15 07:51 PM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus