So we spent Sunday, Easter, reviewing and dividing assets. His original paperwork filed was something else. A joke even. It made me mad that he even signed it. It took me a few to get past that. I took a walk outside and came back in ready to get down to business.
I challenged several of his numbers and instead of suggesting a number I let him suggest first. This was good for me because what I was thinking was higher than his on most of the items. I had to step away to think on several occasions because when I would says something about a value he put on something he would get peeved so I stepped away so I wouldn't say anything ugly and so that I didn't have to sit there and hear the ugly.
I was not as prepared as he was when thinking about the division of assets. I told him to let me mull over a few things this afternoon and I would let him know if I forgot anything. He also asked for the extra fridge we have downstairs and I told him that I would think about that as well.
Later that afternoon, I realized we forgot to include the apple MacBook pro ($3000 laptop we bought last year) in the division of assets. I was asking that we split 1500$ for the asset. He flew off the deep end a little calling me greedy and a lot worse. My favorite lying cheating whore... That one is his standby. Funny cause I wasn't the one who sought out others in our relationship. Anyway, the name calling got to me and I lost my cool a little. I'm sure that did not work in my favor at all.
However, this morning, I made it a point to pick at least one thing that he was being generous about and I actually came up with two things.
First, we split the houses. He is getting the lake house and I am getting the primary residence. He bought this house in 1997 and we didn't get married until 2003. So, I thought it would be nice to compliment him on his generosity. I told him I knew that he worked hard for it and I hated that he was losing it despite the fact that it is for the best interest of the kids. I told him his kindness was not being unnoticed.
The second thing I did was about the cat. He had a cat coming into this marriage and the cat is around 17 years old maybe a bit older. He doesn't get around as much and I know he loves this cat. So, I told him it was selfless of him to decide to leave the cat. That he probably would not have adjusted well to the new environment and if he decided to get an apartment to stay in closer to his work that it would have been hard on the cat to longer be able to roam wild and free. I thanked him for entrusting his care to me and that I would make sure he was well taken care of and comfortable for however much longer he was here.
Today, I am just emotionally drained and not sure that I have much to offer anybody.
On the plus side, I went out dancing with friends Friday. Had a spectacular time too. And then Saturday we went to a Easter BBQ at a friends house. The kids ran wild and had such a good time and it was great interacting with other people my age that I was not related to. That was my first BBQ since 2008 maybe even 2007. And the date night with the girls, well that was the first in over 12 years. I didn't realize how much I was missing these things. I was in a great mood Saturday and up until the negotiations, I was in a great mood too.
Been slacking a little on charting my food and exercise this weekend. Time to get back on track with that too.
