hmkies, I can relate to how you feel about the affair. Cadet is right! I should have noticed the signs a long time ago. My W read lots of romance novels to start. Than I noticed a picture on her phone of a girl and a cowboy kissing in a barn. She put this as her profile picture on things. It made me feel weird. Like she was wanting to be that woman. I asked about it and she said she just liked the picture. Whatever! I'm no expert, but it is tough to compete with fantasies!!
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"