You don't have to be needy, but in some little ways let him know that he is needed. Like asking him to do something that you are very capable of doing, but like the way he does it better.
Just little things to build his ego, to kind of help him to start seeing himself in a better light. So that he can move past all this anger that he has at himself. You know how you felt when you accomplished something for the first time. What a boost that was to your self-esteeme.
You are right, he did do all those things to you and trust me, he is paying every day in his own thoughts for what he did. He is reaping what he has sown and no, you can't take that away from him because he has to learn the lesson.
Yet there are simple ways that maybe you can help boost his self-esteeme so that he can start looking at things through a different pair of glasses. Kind of what you had to do when he first left. You know how you go through the time of blaming yourself for everything. Not having a real high opinion of yourself and so on.
To be honest with you, sometimes I think that he is jealous of the relationship that you have with your son. That is not your fault, but is just something that they go through.
You are so confused, because this is no longer familiar territory to you. He is going through so much right now and in many ways it is similar to the beginning and then in many other ways it is not. Instead of running out on you guys, he is right there with you guys going through it all.
Searching for the answer to the thing that is going to make him happy and you know as well as I do that the only thing that will help him is getting with the Lord and working through this. Just like you did. So keep praying for that.
This is going to even take you some time to get through and work through. You were detached from him for so long and now you are having to learn different things again. Remember, this is a brand new marriage and a brand new relationship.
