Affair Over but Stuck

[Hurt06]

Heres what I came up with, Her father said over the phone that he would not leave the house either but that view may change, as its been several days. I really don't see any reason to talk to the in-laws about her asking me to move out but I think it was the Moms idea. Both her parents are saying "you guys tried to work it out and its not working" She claims that she has told them everything but very clearly she has not as the father was blown away when he found out that the OM has been in our new house and I will not be leaving to facilitate what may or may not still be going on.

here are the three bullet points.


-What are you doing? "I want to save my marriage but I cannot do that by myself. I want my wife to be healthily and happy and will do anything I can to help her through this but I will not be leaving our home. If she needs space to find herself, I respect her decision and although I do not want or agree with her leaving our home, she is free to do what ever she feels she must do. We cannot afford 2 house holds, the money is simply not there so what ever she decides to do she will need to pay for herself."

-What can they expect to see you do? "Be consistent, provide a safe place to live for her and children, continue to see IC and MC, Continue to work at my job, Be a good father, Be a good provider, Be a good Christain husband, and continue working on myself."

-Why? "There are boundaries that cannot be violated any longer. Its not good for me, the children, or our marriage. It is my hope that she will seek IC and MC and save our marriage."