It sounds like you're doing a lot better recently in holding back, not pursuing, and so on. Personally, I would not mention D again to your W. Every time you do you're just floating that idea in her head. You just have to roll with it I'm afraid. What things are you doing to improve yourself? What other 180s besides pulling back have you tried?
As for her one sided feelings conversation, you just have to suck it up. It's good your W is sharing her feelings with you. Validate as you have been wherever possible. Make sure you give her full attention when she speaks. Be cool. Be the best you, you can be!
BD - 30TH JAN 2015 S - 30TH JAN 2015 PA CONFIRMED - 16TH FEB 2015 (SINCE AT LEAST OCT 2014) CONTINUAL TALK OF D ME: 31 W: 28 T: 10yrs M: 4.5yrs D:5, S:6