Affair Over but Stuck

[Zues126]

In law talk- be clear about what you are trying to accomplish. You aren't going to win them to your side. You aren't going to get them to agree with your views. That's NOT going to happen.

All you can do is have a handful of bullet points so like it or not they can understand what you are doing and why.

What are you doing? What can they expect to see you do? Why? Try writing it out in a few bullets for the forum. We'll give feedback. Then, during your conversation just list your bullets, validate their feelings, and be prepared with conversation enders such as "it sounds like we understand each other's point of view and simply feel differently. There doesn't seem to be a point to rehashing this further. I will say I appreciate you having this conversation and hope you know I have a lot of respect for the way you've handled this. Please take care".

Or whatever that looks like. It's late, but that's what I'd do. Practice.