Yesterday, W finished up her homework at her mom's house, then finally came home. She did call me earlier in the day to let me know what her plan was. I called her back later to confirm.
When she got home with S3, he wanted to go to the basement to watch TV, while W wanted to watch TV upstairs. I went down with S3 to hang out with him as I had not gotten to do so all day. During this time, I heard W upstairs cleaning, something I am not accustomed to. I brought S3 upstairs for him to get a bath, and a lot had been done.
Turned on the show I wanted to watch. W brought a snack out to me with a big smile and sat right next to me, almost expecting cuddling closeness or something. I politely denied the snack and just watched TV.
Finished S3's bath, he snuggled with W, and then went to bed. We watched TV together. I allowed her to initiate conversations, kept my talk short and polite. When what we were watching was over, I went to the bedroom, took her pillows out and put them on the couch. No word from her, she slept there. S3 did get up in the middle of the night, asked me where mommy was, I told him, he went and slept with her the remainder of the night on the couch.
W was supposed to get up early this morning, go to a meeting, then come over to my family's house for Easter. I heard her alarm, but she did not get up. I got up when her meeting was supposed to start. She was still sleeping, I just took a shower. I got ready, then went to W and S3 on couch, "Come on buddy, let's get up and go to grandma and grandpa's." There was only about 15 minutes to get him ready to go (I did get up a little later than anticipated). W helped get S3 ready, when we were leaving, W claimed "I really did want to go." I respond, "We can wait if you want to get ready and go." She said, "I cannot get ready in time and I have a headache." She did seem a bit down with that. I can understand that. I am not her alarm clock though.
I decided it was better she did not go. I put my ring back on, so people would not ask questions about it, and when asked where W was, I just said she was not feeling well. We had a great time at my parents house.
Got home, ring back off, W was napping, S3 brought her some flowers he had picked for her. That cheered her up some. We all went outside. W wanted to know how things went, I told her what all S3 got to do. Left it at that. She went back in, actually did the laundry. From that day. First time I had seen that in a long time.
We were planning to take S3 to the park. W asked him what car he wanted to take. He responded "Daddy's car!" This is actually normal. "What? You do not trust mommy's driving?" I come through. "OK, let's got then!" I get S3 situated in the car. W is not coming out. I go back in and ask her what she is doing. Her response is, "What's the point?" I could tell she felt pretty bad, so I wait a little to see if she would say anything else. Nothing. "OK, we will be home later."
S3 and I have a fun time at the park, come home. W is on the phone speaking to her mom, very teary eyed. I over hear, "I just do not even want to talk to him anymore (referring to me)." When she gets off the phone with her, I immediately get a phone call. It was MIL. I did not answer. W took S3 to give him a bath. I went outside to call MIL back.
MIL mentioned she was told not to talk to me by W. She told me that W was hoping to work something out with me regarding getting the internet back. I told MIL that she can find other routes as I am not going to allow family money to be used to conduct an affair. How W was splicing her talking to OM with the computer at home, coinciding and under the guise of doing homework. She understood my position. She mentioned that when she got back on her computer, that W's FB account was still up and she saw some really disturbing posts by OM (political - something that W would never be OK with either). MIL did not like it one bit. The biggest reason MIL called me, was to mention that W claimed "I just feel like I want to die." I mentioned that I will not allow this to happen, and I will speak with her. I told MIL that it was all part of the script to help ease her mind. I am taking this seriously though. Going to stay up and make sure she does not do anything. She really does need some more IC.
I did go to W and ask her what was wrong. She claimed "Everything I do, I end up hurting someone. All of my actions are just going to ruin S3's life. I just went the route that I felt would hurt people the least amount, by trying to cover it up, omitting the truth. I just feel like I want to die. What am I good for?" I did validate, told her that she was an excellent mother, and asked if I should be concerned with her thoughts. She responded "it would be pointless doing that." I still feel like I need to stay up, just to make sure.
This entire time, I did not let anything get to me. Stayed pretty upbeat. The weird thing about all of this, she has continued to wear her rings.
