Affair Over but Stuck

[Hurt06]

Update: Wife has moved out of MBR into D13 bedroom on blow up matrice in floor. In-laws are coming tomorrow for spring break and want to talk to us both. W had said that she had told them everything which has turned out to be a half lie at best.

I have always been very close to in-laws, closer even than my own parents. Turns out that she had not exposed the fact that she had allowed the OM into our new home. What exactly happened while he was here is still unknown as the lying continues (I have assumed the worst) . In-laws wanted to know why I am not the gentleman and will not give her space (move out) for her health and there stating that her health is more important than our marriage. Had to explain politely to her father that I will no longer be taken advantage of and I will not be leaving the new home that I just purchased for my wife and kids last SEPT. Not sure if this was against the rules or not but it's just what transpired in our conversation. I gave her this space last OCT when she claimed only to be a WAW and she had the man in our house at that time.

I am holding steady with the 37 rules, DBing, GAL, and standing up for myself. Really enjoying time with kids. Took them to Movies this afternoon but the W decided she wanted to go at the last minute. I remained neutral and held steady with polite but distant and moving on.

MC texted this evening and has an opening in the AM for us or individually, I offered wife the time slot and she waffled so I took it. Now she is saying she is only available for 30 mins to see the MC and I guess might show up.

To be honest I am just trying to remain neutral and distant moving on with my life. Outside influences are creeping in with in the In-laws envolved and MC offering last minute counseling to prevent the separation.

As someone stated earlier things are about to get worse I'm afraid. Sure would be nice just to have some peace.

Anyone have experience or insight with something like this?

Any advice on how to deal with the In-laws talk?