I am sorry your having a bad day. I wouldn't fret so much as what to do but keep doing what your doing. I think that being able to talk things out with H instead of sweeping them under the rug would be helpful. Learning how to state something without the arguement, anger, and that but discussing that it does hurt your feelings when he says stuff like that. To put it on the table and deal with it and put it behind you.
But I wouldn't act a way but be who you are and not focused on his drama. Your doing good by taking yourself out of it. Much better then I would. Maybe the next time you take a week off, first ask H if he may want to do something on that week so you can take it off. Like you were thinking of him too. He may of felt put out in a way by you not asking him and in return instead of saying how he really felt jabbed what he thought would be more hurtful to show how he felt.
Ow is just an escape and it would never last. Its fulfilling some need that he is wanting. My guess is communication. This is something that takes some time and work at how to communicate the right way. Yes, sometimes it takes some anger but to state what your upset about and then drop it. Not dwell on it or beat it to death but to state how it made you feel when it was said or done to you.
And then again he could be more mad at himself then anyone and doesn't know how to express himself or say it in the right way. If he is anything like mine is, he will change like night and day. Mine stopped drinking so it isn't so bad. And then what I say sinks in after I say what I need to and go away. Leave him to think about it. But with drinking, it gives that I don't give a darn attitude and its much harder to deal with. Eventually he will see for himself. Right now your his rock. Just thinking.....but have you ever just greeted him when he came home with hugs and kisses? Not waited for him to talk but started up a conversation first?
