When it comes to using words with a WAW in ANY form (face to face, emails, texts), my rule is DONT.

Anything you say that can be interpreted negatively will be.

Anything you say that is positive will force them to recall MORE negatives to fight the positive feelings they don't want to feel, and they'll dig in harder!

NOTHING good can happen.

My advise is talk ONLY with your ACTIONS.

Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15