I see that I got locked up. I remember the old days when I would get my threads locked up in a number of days!
Actually spoke some with ex face to face yesterday. He asked if the mold was growing up the walls and I almost laughed. No, I told him, this is just like when we had this drain blockage when he still lived here. He seemed relieved because then he knew the kids had blown it out of proportion. He knows now that a pipe broke and that is where the priority is for right now. I told him that it was going to take my whole safety net to fix it. So at least now he knows what I am looking at. The ongoing issue with the floor drain will be further down the list.
I suppose it lessened the stress some but I still have lots of house work to tackle. Oh well, as the budget and time allows.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Thanks Rick. Happy Easter to you too. Went and looked at some stuff with S22. I don't like shopping with him, it takes forever and a day to get him to make up his mind. He is moving out Tuesday, so he does still need some stuff. I would love to help but with my money going towards plumbing, I don't have any extra.
Never ending hiuh?
I need a quick nap and back to my part-time job and then cleaning out the closets for the plumber.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Really, you shop fast like a guy? Im in love already...lol. I went outside today to look at the backyard for the 1st time and take a look.I have a brick patio with brick stairs.noticed that they are collapsing. I guess it will cost me 5k to get it fixed. And I need a dental bridge. The cost 6k. My insurance pays 50%. I just tell me "do it when u can f it".
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
I got some really good advice which I seemed to have forgotten,...one thing at a time. Can't be as overwhelmed then. So I just shuffle the cards as far as priority, what I have a say in and what I am waiting to hear about and then what I have to save up for.
Yes, I suppose I shop like a guy. I hate crowds, so I really prefer to shop on line if I am not in a hurry. I have Amazon Prime and I get most things in 2 days. As far as fixing things, I give it a go myself first unless I know I could hurt myself if I make a mistake or if it would take me a long time to get it done. I love hardware stores. Crazy , huh?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I have Amazon Prime too, and use it so often it's worth the annual fee (in shipping charges alone). I also despise shopping for the sake of shopping. Spending money makes me cranky.
Like you, I took apart my carpet steam cleaner on Saturday and fixed the water spray. Now if only it would spray soap... And again, like you, I LOVE hardware stores. Not that I'm qualified to buy the big stuff.
For my birthday gift, I asked Mr. Wonderful to fix D21's slatted box spring. For the life of us, we can't figure out how the main support splintered, which compromised the entire structure of the base. It doesn't have springs in it, which I guess means it's not a box spring, but what else do you call it? Anyway, we made a trip to Home Depot yesterday to buy the wood, and he showed me how to use my circular saw. Memo to me to buy safety glasses. Then he gave me tips on the types of screws to use, so I figure I got a very useful gift from him - along with a gift card. I want to learn how to do more handyman stuff. I figure I'm good with sewing and measuring, so why can't I learn the right skills to do basic stuff?
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Lots of tears this morning. Some progress was made on the plumbing front but D22 is moving today. Yes, I know he is old enough, I get all his reasons and I just have to let him go. As he was on the phone as I was leaving, he just bought an as is TV, it had no box or remote, he ended up throwing away his power cord to it last night and the trash had already been picked up by the time he woke up.
He gets to figure that all out now. Anyway my boss asked me if something was off because the last couple of weeks I seemed out of it. I tried hard not to cry and then just burst into tears! It all came out...Bryan (ex), plumbing, S22 moving today, S19 throwing out important stuff while he is trying to help me, Ex being a huge thorn in my side while I am trying to get eveerything done and still be everything to everybody. Ok, I didn't mention how he was a thorn too but everything else. Now he gets it, even though I have tried to let him know bit by bit.
I am exhausted and it is only 11:05am. Well, I am down to just the girls at home. sigh
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Aww, Kat, it sounds like you and I are kind of in the same place with a lot of stuff. Make sure you take care of you.
I completely understand about letting go. My D21 posted on her FB yesterday that she took her internship in Albany and likely spent her last summer at home in 2014. It made my heart sink in my stomach. On the heels of that post, her BFF posted me a happy birthday message and said she would be a stand-in and go on froyo dates with me anytime I want. I'll take her up on it (I did all fall). It just made me sad.
I can hardly remember a time when I wasn't MOM. My role has changed and is still changing, and although I'm so glad I don't have to do a lot of stuff I did back when, I'm sad too. I understand. I really wish we lived closer. I could use a big dose of you.
Make sure you schedule fun girl things with them. For some reason, it really helps me get in a better mood when I do that with D18. We're going to see Joseph & the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat in a few weeks. It's a perennial fave of ours (we all sing along), so when it came on a TV commercial, she pointed to it. I'm looking forward to that.
FTR, Mr. Wonderful is also kind of sad about all of this too. We wound up talking about it some on Easter, and I think his feelings are compounded with his reality of losing his family earlier than I did. Granted, it was his decision, but...
Gentle reminder to a friend: you don't have to be everything to everybody. You just have to show up every day and be the best Kat you can be at that moment in time. Take the pressure off yourself, okay?
Hugs and love,
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
It comes in bunches, Kat. Mother Teresa once said "I know God won't give me more than I can handle but I just wish he wouldn't trust me so much"...or something like that. Hang in there...tears can serve as a good release and now your boss knows you're under stress. Hopefully he will be caring too.
