I know that this question is directed to Sandi. I'd like to chime in here to give some perspective.
Originally Posted By: alpha99
I think my question still holds: how to ensure you're not pursuing if you are attempting to focus communication on WAW and not yourself?
Asking questions about how their day went, how they are, or anything related to them personally is considered pursuing and your WAW will feel it emanating from your pores.
Communication centers on how you can convey and carry a message across to WAW. Respectful? Cordial? Validating? How you communicate really sets the tone of your interactions with WAW. How you do it is up to you. Want to be a jerk? Then act like one. Want to be upbeat? Then act upbeat.
It's not rocket science.
The problem as I see it around here is that the LBHs try to read waaaay toooo much into what the WAW says or doesn't say. Like trying to read tea leaves. By exhibiting those thought patterns, one does not really deomonsstrate a true detachment. When one's truly detached, then one isn't overly concerned with how or what is being said/done.
