I understand what you're saying about gifts for brownie points. Randomly buying gifts is a form of pursuit and so clearly a bad idea. I guess I was asking what to do when it comes to birthdays, Christmas etc. Do you think it would appear mean or cold hearted not to buy gifts on those occasions if they are bought simply for the occasion, not as a big gesture of love?
With regards to conflict, I think I meant rules 16 and 31. Re-reading 16 makes it clear you're talking about asking (or rather not asking) about whereabouts. I think my question still holds: how to ensure you're not pursuing if you are attempting to focus communication on WAW and not yourself?
BD - 30TH JAN 2015 S - 30TH JAN 2015 PA CONFIRMED - 16TH FEB 2015 (SINCE AT LEAST OCT 2014) CONTINUAL TALK OF D ME: 31 W: 28 T: 10yrs M: 4.5yrs D:5, S:6
