Okay coming back because I wonder am I letting H disrespect me by letting him talk the way he does around me?
H does not like it that I have paid vacation, does not like it when I "tell" him I'm doing this or that.
This is part of his controlling/verbal abuse personality. That is going to be a hard one to change on his own.
When I asked him who he was going on vacation with, H wouldn't tell me. I sometimes think he just makes up lies.
Other times I think H is jealous that I have a life.
Oh well, not going to worry too much about it.
I am sitting here thinking, does it bother me that H talks to me the way he does and it really doesn't. It bothers other people more and then I think it should bother me. The thing is I heard other S say terrible things to their S's, too.
My friend once told her H to go to He!! becuase he said something he didn't like. Another friend/couple tell each other to shut up and they've been married 25 years! Go figure.
