Sandi2's 37 Rules

[sandi2]

Let me try to explain about the list. I did not copy it from anyone. There is no such list in Michele's book. It all started when I was posting to a newcomer LBH and I just started listing things he should and/or should not do. These "rules" are, however, based on Michele's principles. That is what's meant by saying they came from her book. You may not find the exact wording to match the rules, but the principles came from the content of her book. Make sense?

By the bar scene I assume that means going out with the intention to date/pull? How about socialising with new friends/people unknown to WAS. In a relatively small town it is possible to be seen by WAS or their friends whilst out, even if this is in a completely innocent scenario. Any advice on that? Of course you have to get out. Maybe I'm asking also about how to handle any fallout from being seen just being out and about with 'new friends.'

The one about staying away from bars was in the list b/c that particular newcomer had met someone in a bar, and the results caused more complication in his life. I left it in the list b/c of reading posts from vulnerable LBH'S who did not go with intentions of picking up a woman, but was either hit on by a woman, or introduced to a woman, and the flirtation would start (but not necessarily end there). It is just my own opinion about the bars being used as a social atmosphere, due to problems that can easily arise. The man may not be looking for a date, but that doesn't prevent some woman hitting on him.
The bar issue is strictly up to the individual, just as the other 36 are choices.

You say some seem contradictive. Do you mean with what Michele says or the rules in the list?

I will gladly answer questions pertaining to any of the 37 listed, however, I believe it may be less confusing if we don't try to cover too wide a span at one time. Maybe zone in on one question at a time.