This stands for gorgeous girl of course! I know you scrub up well.
My lovely wonderful friend I am going to ask you to forgive yourself for not knowing. I did not know that my H was a compulsive gambler, that he was stealing my future, that he was not committed to me or his M. That it was about his compulsions.
I felt so much more alive once I forgave me, took responsibility for my decision and let go of the resentment. With a narc or compulsive it is unwise to forgive and forget otherwise you get sucked in again with the charm offensive. The cycle repeats itself, and Gg we are now vulnerable to these types of R. So extra care is needed. It is said once bitten twice shy but once bitten unperturbed!
I am glad the dog is ok, two wonky animals on one farm? How is wonky lambie?
Think of H as a very selfish grumpy goat that you are glad went off to eat from a garbage dump. It has bad breath and will only return if it runs out of garbage. It poops and does its business everywhere too. Needs tethering.
Very early on my image of Gg was marching OW to the bin in kick ass heels and putting her out with the rubbish head first in the muck bin. Now I see that with H.
Have a fabulous GAL evening Gg. Mega point score.
Love V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
I know, I need to remember what happened and why I allowed it to happen.
To see the charm, to see the signs.
To know better and be able to run a mile. The ow, she got such a prize, rolls eyes not!
I have a kind of tick list and prospective new bf will need to make most ticks. So far very few make too many.
I too will be careful of drinkers, no smokers and the baggage omg where to draw the line? So many have lots of the stuff.
Most don't pass the first bigger ticks of equal contribution. Narcs and abusers won't contribute remotely equally. In fact narcs will make you do all the r work but make you think they contribute.
Really I'd settle for a bit of pursit, some fun times.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Well,it's a mix... Of the things a person needs to be or have. Non smoker Non drinker/mild No drugs Less than 50yo
Compassion Honesty Some form romance Compassion kindness especially towards animals Knowledge of animals Ability to keep learning flexibility of spiritual growth Supportive (when nothing in it directly for them) just being, Humor Assets Jobs Equal r puts in at min 50% of th work
My needs feature as priority Shared values Problem solving skills, with a bent towards what works Reciprocally based, not one sided.
Some of that might be better in different way and some is very simlar. Those were just the things I saw as important.
None so far have tick more than the first non smoker box and a couple of others. To others it might be a bit too simple and other vets might have a better list or more concrete way to define.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
just been checking in sounds like there's been a lot of self introspection and growth going on over Easter with you. Good for you, glad to see you're getting there with the work on the property too and that Hound is ok (must've been a little worrying there).
read the list, darn, fail on two of those but not telling you which ones (devil icon)
Stay classy Gg
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Well, some of them have made the list because of both xh.
Drugs well neither did, illicit drugs. Had a bf that did once, it was a deal breaker. Xh2 he would self medicate when in pain with large doses of over the counter. explained as prescribed by dr as ok. Drinking well xh1 his family had a problem with it, and he could not stop at one drink all or nothing. He could not drink for his long perriods but when he started that was it. I decided it made him Alcaholic.
Some of the others are just values. Some say the kindness towards animals can be a show of true character. Abusers abuse no matter the specis. Smoking dad died of smoking, so I hate it, also find it disgusting and unattractive.
I think some of that list are very basic ideals. I prefer some one with their own money but a job would be bottom line. No welfare people.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Those are all completely understandable. I had a relationship with someone who had serious monetary issues, by the end (it was < 7 months waaaaayyyy before I met w, long ago now) she'd "borrowed" close to �2k which I of course never saw again. Drugs, never had a run in with anyone who I knew took anything bar prescribed for a reason stuff and as for animals, I dont think I could ever even be around people who dont like *an* animal of some kind, cat, dog, giraffe (well maybe not as a pet) shows a level of empathy.
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
I can tell the difference between a Toucan, a shark and an alpaca. Does that count as knowledge of animals?
Drugs is something you definitely don't want to be around, they were really surprisingly common where I grew up and were responsible for a lot of bad things.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
