Thanks Toots,

I say "owes" only because she repeatedly says she doesn't owe me anything. Further away? I dont how she could get any further away short of remarry. There is not the slightest hint of possible reconciliation on her part.

Accept I can deal with. Hitler though he had good reason too. Does he deserve the same gracious respect? I probably won't be able to change her mind ever, and I am not certain I want to. Focus and refocus. Its hard. OK personally it might be worth it, and I will better be able to assess whether I even want the M. But saving my marriage will always be out of my control.


M: 6 T: 12
Kids: 2,4
BD: Jan 2015 S: Feb 2015
EA/PA confirmed: Feb2015/Mar2015