Welcome back! I'm glad that you and the children had a wonderful time in Hong Kong. It always does us a world of good to get away from the mlc madness for a while. It's funny how they will do things to smooth the way for them to either leave us or get us to "soften" up to their ideas. Well, he certainly pulled out all of the stops on the pre-Easter meal and then poof! Off he went. The dinner was to appease his guilt for what he was about to do, i.e., run away to the US. So, he's gone for about two weeks...he may or may not return in that time period, but the one single bag doesn't surprise me. They tend to leave w/just a few pieces of clothing and think that they have it all together. Time will tell as to whether he returns during that time period or not...but while he's gone, you will have some time to think about what you need to do to ensure that you and your children are financially set. Keep a close eye on the bills and be sure you speak to someone about the separation that is going to be coming your way because of his "need" to be back in the US.
I'm glad to see that you've read up on narcissism and passive aggression. I see that after reading up on these personality traits that things are starting to "click" for you. PA people will drive you insane because you never know what they are thinking and they do not tell you how they feel and yes, they aren't capable of being emotionally involved w/someone for fear of being hurt. PA is a "learned" behavior from childhood and it is very frustrating dealing w/someone who has this personality trait.
I do hope your daughters do well today. You have a lot to be proud of and that's not just being a mother, but being the wonderful person that you are.
Continue to keep the focus on you and your children.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
