Anxiously waiting for it to fall apart

[123Gwen]

Dejavu2 - So happy you had a wonderful holiday. Spending time away is food for the soul.

Our H's seems very similar so I can relate to your sitch. My H left for a job and OW but in less than a year has now quit that position and is taking another to live with OW. This job involves a lot of travel and that will probably help their R Because it will never be monotonous.

I used to think H was ambitious but now I think he just likes the high of new city, new job and new people. I also read about PA narcissism and H fits that description but maybe he is or was an introvert? For many years I was on a pedestal and so were our children but now we are off the radar.

I guess bottom line is that you are wise to understand things may be drawn out because you are not their focus.

The only advice I can give you is to be on your guard financially. Set up any protections you can as soon as you can. Once they leave and you are off the pedestal H may behave differently in that regard.

MLC is very real for this type of personality. My H never had close friends either. The one he does have has been ignored as well. He took very little and almost a year later he has not returned to see his children.

Isorry for the hijack. I hope your H gets to the U.S. and starts to understand that wherever you go there you are. Hopefully he'll look in the mirror and do the work towards R. Hang in there. You are doing great.