Hi Pyrite, I can truly understand your frustration. I've felt that way too. But the best thing is to get the anger out in a safe way - running, punch bag chop wood....and so on. Then work towards acceptance of the situation as best you can.

You feel it is so unfair - but of course shaking her, telling her the rules, and that she 'owes' you, or sets a bad example. None of these will work. That's the hard thing. In fact they will drive your W further away.

The place to aim towards is one where you respect and accept the decisions she is making. Of course you don't like them, but she has her reasons, and to her they are good ones. You can't change her mind right now - but you can work on saving yourself, and possibly your M. Focus on what you can control....

T :-)

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus