It's a nightmare. Wake me up.

[koalada]

I have to explain my sitch a bit more. I our M my wife messed up things from time to time (we all do). Most of the time she asked other people to clean the mess up. When she caused financial trouble, she expected me to solve the problem. When she messed up with a contract, she expected me to make the necessary phone calls. When she made bad decisions, she asked me to help her with the problem. I always did and did so, because I love her and I am her husband. Since her childhood, she had always someone who kept the consequences of her decisions away from her. In this area of her life she still behaves like a little girl, that can always rely on her father (but wants to be treated like a mature woman).
I love my kids, but I do not want to be the solution to W problems ("What to do with the kids on the next weekend?"). Usually she would spent the 3 days away from home and when she came back, everyone was fine and we welcomed her back with a cake or a nice meal. And that happened for yrs. Yes, I am stubborn, because she does not appreciate, that I have invested in her dream for yrs. She has not given any good reason yet, why she will not work on this M. She wants me to be supportive, but gives a rat*******s about the M. She wants a soft divorce.

What should I do? Build a smooth path for her into her new relationship?

I just needed to let go off the steam a bit. It is not mature, but I hope you can understand my frustration.