Sorry, to see you here. This is probably the worst time you can think of. But trust me, it will get better for you. It's a roller coaster of ups and downs, but things will eventually stabilize. This is the best place for me to see that others are going through similar things and we all can help each other.
First, read through some of these threads. You're not alone in how you feel, your sitch, your W feelings, etc.
Second, we all believe that this is could be a quick fix, but the A damage is done and it takes a LONG time for things to start to right themselves if they are meant to.
Third, start to think about WHY W was unhappy. That's not to say there is any justification in her doing what she has done, but it helps us focus on things we can fix (ourselves)
Fourth, a spouse in an affair has huge, wild, crazy, horrific, and any other adjectives you want to use attitudes, mood swings, thought processes etc. We all struggle trying to figure out what is going through their heads when they can't even figure it out themselves.
Fifth, focus on things in this order Yourself, Your Kids, Finances, Your Job, Your House, Your WAS. We all get caught up trying to focus on how to 'fix' our M or WAS and go in circles and neglect the other things.
Sixth, eat, sleep, try and relax.
We're all here to help and read through other threads as it helps essentially look into the future to see the different stages you will go through.
M:36 W:37 T: 15 M:11 S6 D5 BD: 8/10/14 IDLY: 8/12/14 S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids) D Mentioned: 10/15/14 Confronted about OM: 10/15/14 EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13 She filed: 8/15 (not final)
