All I can say is: I don't know how you do it my friend! I started to get angry just reading your post....since your H's actions kindda reminded me of someone I know.
You are soooo patient! Your H is very lucky in this respect.
Quote: I'm realizing that this is going to take awhile for H to get over OW, get OW out of his life. For some reason I had it my head that when H came home, he'd stop talking/contacting OW becuase he WOULD know this is what he needs to do to get OW out of his system.
You'd think so wouldn't you?
Quote: I think sometimes I try to put a timeline on the process. Okay this many months for H to get over OW, this many months for H to start doing this, etc., etc. I can't do that. No expectations, not looking too far down the road. Just focus on the now.
Yup! This is what I've been trying to do. I look at the boards and see that people's sitchs started to improve after aobut a year of this nonsense and I think: "ok, things should start to change now. I should start to see some improvement."
Yes, we can only focus on the now. I, as a total control-freak, planner, need to do this as well.
