Hey Bright. I think you are a fine writer, and I totally understand your feelings. (I have gotten some great posts from you, which have said a lot in a little and I know that you just get it. You are very in tune to things- and I get that with your writing... your point comes across very clearly- don't underestimate it!)
I also get the immediate reaction we feel, even if we think we have "changed" or "made progress." But, Bright, the fact that you think about it and assess it shows growth. The bottom line is, you feel hurt by his response, and that strikes a chord in you. It is human to have a reaction like that. But your responses have changed. You have a right to feel a certain way. But, Bright, you don't wallow in bitterness or negativity. You pick yourself up and move on- even when it is so difficult.
You got this, Bright. I understand, even when we feel we have no expectations, we can still feel rejected. And sometimes it comes when we didn't even think it could! Rejection stinks. But, he is the loser here. He will see it. He probably knows it already, but is in denial. He can't live there forever. If he does, it will be a pretty unfulfilling life.