So as a follow up question, I wonder if it's possible to go dark and yet live together. For the past few months, I have been trying to be kind and affectionate and loving. I think it's gotten me nowhere. He thinks I'm still controlling him. We've also had an active sex life, and it's been a mutual desire. But now he says his fantasy is that I would want to have sex for the sake of sex for now, without the emotion attached. To some extend I'm ok with that, although it's not always easy. I'm trying to take care of myself and do more for me. How do I go dark without acting uninterested, as I think that would backfire as well. I'm just so confused about how to act.
