W slept on couch without any issue last night. She did come in to the bedroom when I had my laptop out and asked "What else are you doing?" I just claimed I was looking at stuff and trying to go to sleep. She thought I was up to more.
My ring came off. She kept hers on. Not expecting them to stay on.
S3 got up in the middle of the night. W rushed over to help sooth him back to sleep. He got up later, came into the bedroom and climbed in bed with me. "Where is mommy? I just want mommy." (in reality, this is the most difficult thing to listen to at this point). "She is in the family room buddy if you want to go out there." I rubbed his back a little and he fell right asleep and stayed for the remainder of the night. I got up in the morning, took a shower and got dressed.
"What are you planning to do?" I got. I answered "Hanging out with some friends this morning, I will be back later." "Where are you going?" I repeated what I said before. She asked again. I just said I was going to watch a soccer game with some friends (should have just giving her a seriously look). On walking out the door, W asks "how long are you going to keep up this game?" I did not respond. Walked out saying I will be home later.
To my surprise, the bartender was a good friend from high school. Reconnected some. Felt good. Hung out longer than anticipated, got some lunch too.
Came home. W's car was gone. I kept the internet off as I saw she was continuing to use the laptop to contact OM when she said she did not.
Just called MIL to apologize for not being able to show up. She apparently secretively went to a different room to talk to me. W talked to her, mentioned D. Said I was controlling, cannot be without OM, etc, etc. I figured she would speak to her. Had a good talk with MIL. She is devastated, wants to protect S3 from all of this. I agreed and validated. Mentioned I did not agree to a D and was fully committed to the M and what I was doing to a degree, that a little sacrifice with S3 now may end up beneficial later. She understood my stance. She told W that she would not support her/OM at all. That it will not work that way, and not to expect to see her much if at all anymore. I do not blame her. We had a good talk about boundaries. How W does not seem to grasp the concept. MIL mentioned that she just cannot have any trust in her ever again as she just keeps lying to everyone.
Another thing she mentioned last night along with the "I need him" statement, was that she is not able to trust her free will as that is what got her into the addictions in the first place. Kind of a scary statement, but it is kind of what AA teaches. Giving it up to a higher power. That may be good and all for some people, but when the higher power is an OM telling you these things, that is what I would call brainwashing. Still, her feelings are her feelings. Her decisions are her decisions.
On closing, MIL called me a different name - assuming because W was in hearing range. I apologized for not being able to be there, wished them a good time, and told them I loved them.
