Remember these things that he is saying to you are actually projections of himself. Not what you do or say, but what he sees himself doing, but can not admit that about himself.
What he is really saying, is that he doesn't know why he is planning these things, because he doesn't know if you are going to want to stay with him. Not if he is going to want to stay with you because he came back. He dumped the OW and is now planning things with you. If you notice, his actions do not match his words.
He says one thing and does another. He is not saying that you don't feel anything, but that he doesn't feel anything, but he just has not seen that it is him and not you. Still running from himself and having a hard time facing himself.
He is hitting the depression/withdrawal/acceptance stage. There are alot of things that he is seeing about himself that he is having a hard time facing. Yet he is going to have to face them. What did they do when they first entered MLC, they blame you for everything that was wrong in their lives because they could not face themselves. That is not going to change for a while.
He is blaming you again for the doubts that he has about himself. Just let it go in one ear and out the other. Just keep telling him that you are sorry he feels that way. What else can you say? It is his problem that he has to work through and not your own.
When you think about it, when you are going through something, how often do you automatically see it to be a problem you have and not the problem of the other person's first. Until the Lord opens up your eyes to make you see yourself, it is always the other person's fault.
I know for myself, there are times that I can pick something out in someone else that is actually my flaw, but until I look at myself, I don't see it. So just keep praying for him and let it go. Just keep responding like you are responding.
He doesn't feel that he deserves you and that is going to be that way for a while. If it were the other way around, would you feel that you deserved someone that stood there waiting for you after all the things that you did? He has to come to repentance and that is something that you can pray for him to receive.
One day he will stop saying those things. One day he will realize just exactly where the problem lies and it doesn't lie within you. It lies within himself.
