Sounds like they are all the same personality type. My H also comments on other situations or people when he is doing the same stuff. And acts amazed when people are offended by his behavior when he'd be offended in the same situation.
I wonder if some of it isn't defensive or protective. They don't want to see what they are actually doing. I know my H doesn't use the actual words "marriage", "divorce", "affair", "separation" except very very rarely. He refers to everything as "this" or "my situation".
T2 shouldn't have crossbones, she should have an exclamation point near her name. You just sum things up so clearly sometimes, T2
