I have to be honest though knowing W went out at 11 at night to go meet a dude at a hotel 40 miles away from both of them has really left a scar on me. At moments I feel the lowest I have in this whole situation. At the same time even though I don't want things to be over, I know realize it is out of my control and I am able to function again. I do not watch my phone anymore, I do not call or text her.
Sorry you have to deal with that thought. I can understand how traumatic it can be, but it really is out of your control. I know that doesn't ease the pain any but just know shes not doing this to hurt you, and what she has with this man isn't real. Its a desperate attempt for her to fill a void. Just give her time to figure it out and at the end of it if she ever comes out of it you both can decide if its something you want to work on.
Over time detaching does get easier, but you still have to work at it constantly. Its too easy to slip up and backslide. When/if you do just pick yourself up and keep going.
Originally Posted By: errod
I can't move because sitting with her feels so good and then I think things can work out again.
Understandable, but those expectations will only hurt you in the long run so its best to keep it out of your mind as much as possible. The thought will come up, not much you can do about that, but how long you stew over it in your mind is something you can somewhat control.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
