I'm so sorry, GGrass. Hugs, big ones. Keep posting if you can. I read your NC bit on Gan's thread. I know that is where I will be soon. Dynamic seems familiar enough.
What do you plan to do about this now that you are getting the wide angle view and time?
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on