Gg, if I understand you then you are upset that you wasted your years with a narc. Someone who because of narc treated you very badly, harmed you, ignored you and was unsupportive when there were issues in your own life?

His behaviour was such that you were left unsure of exactly what to do in your M for the M to be happy. H was always dissatisfied with his life ad blamed you for it! I hope that I have assessed that ok.

When you first met H, how was he? Were there any indications that he had these tendencies?

You obviously felt he would make a good life partner then, so did his behaviour gradually change?

You were very clearly unhappy, what did you do to try to resolve it? Did you think of leaving?

Do you think this affected S17?


Did you think of finishing and asking H to leave or was the assault on Sthen15 the trigger?

i would like to understand and if this is very distressing it's ok too.

V

Last edited by Vanilla; 04/04/15 03:11 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW