As it turns out, you only see what he wants you to see, Lou. You can't know if he's "happy" or not. And don't be so hard on yourself - when they "intrude" back in our lives it is hard for a while. Frustrating is the right way to put it. It'll stay that way until you make peace with it. A conscious effort to not let it get it to you or destroy your life each time.
There's a lot of pain there, Lou. If there wasn't, then you would have wasted those 24 years. And he is basically taken over by an alien. Unless and until he shakes that alien off, he's not the person you knew and he won't be no matter how hard he tries to sound like it.
Hang in there Lou! It gets better, but never as fast as we'd like. But it does get better.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
