Claire learning to accept

[Zues126]

Claire- I thought it was interesting to hear Mozza's point of view on whether reading M advice was holding you back somehow. I'm not how I feel about it.

You know- on the DB Forums we are all about detachment and dropping the rope. It's like a race to see who can move on the fastest! I know that helps both for our own sanity and then indirectly giving our M the best chance.

But I'll tell you something...to me there is something very admirable about feeling so strongly for so long.

I'm not saying I want you to be stunted in your growth, or to be needy/codependent and unable to feel good about yourself without a man. I'd agree that if in 10 years or even 5 you were still waking up every day fighting demons that would look a little neurotic.

But look at it this way. How attractive would it be if someone lost their spouse and they were out the next weekend like "whatever, that's the past maaaaaaaaaan"...? I mean, I would think there was something sociopathic about that person!

Personally, though, I am touched by how deep your feelings have run.

Now, I don't want to see you in pain. I want you to find peace and acceptance. And I don't want you to be caged by insecurity or feelings of insufficiency. But while you try to grow into your best self, and while I'm sure I'll admire the person you grow into, I'll also say I kind of like who you are now too.