But those nice things they can do is refered to love bombing. They love bomb you and feed your needs just enough to give you hope and have you coming back.
Even tho I've been 98% nc for a year, I have gossips coming and telling me how my h was a lovely bloke who was forced to hit my son!
He was forced to threaten me, they phone up and spend lots of time trying to convince me that h re written history is 100% correct. It's is from h view.
He has justified his cheating and those that defend refuse to believe such a charitable man would cheat. The early stages of his a, was a secret so hence no one believes.
Bad memory is narc trait, they don't want to remember the harm they cause. They know its harm because of it was done to them, you would cop,the biggest spray of verbal lashings. They know.
My h was projecting his cheating onto me for 3 years. The first time I was blind sided and devastated that he could think I was cheating. Often I worked 80hours per week at times, where was the time?
My h made me coffee the morning after h had been on the phone texting and phoning ow. We went out to dinner the night after he spent the night with her, best Intel suggest that's true. He had done all these "nice" things but his motivating factor was his wanting a pay off and his resentment and spew used to follow when the pay out wasn't to his liking.
It was pure control.
Last edited by Ggrass; 04/04/1501:20 AM.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
