As anyone who has been following my sitch can see, there is absolutely no hope for reconciliation at this stage in the game.
In the past, I have been keeping dark, and then keeping any responses short and to the point. I have not pursued or pleaded, although I sent numerous emails to her when it first happened. Those emails forgive her and I also told her I did not want divorce and would do whatever it took to make things better. Those were sent in January, and none since early Feb.
She doesn't seem fazed at all by my actions, and has marched steadily toward divorce, and into a full blown public relationship with OM. I honestly think that she feels like she has gone so far, that she cannot come back.
Here's my question:
Should I even continue with DB/DR? Why not just put it all on the table, tell her to F-off, and tell her that I never want to see her again? Please understand that I don't necessarily mean that, but I am just so fed up, sad, and frustrated. She has completely written off my children and grandchildren, and has not spoken with them since affair was discovered. They were always SO CLOSE, and she has completely walked away from them. I am nothing but a stranger to her, and she badmouths me to her friends and family, even though she was the one that had the affair. This whole thing happened so fast, and she never gave it a chance.
I understand that things take time, and I read other posts voraciously. However, I just don't see a chance in HE** that my sitch will improve.
Me M51 WW F46 T 17 yrs M 16 yrs 9 children D29 D27 D26 S24 S24 S19 S19 niece18 S17 8 grandchildren ILYBINILWY: 12/15/14 I discover PA 12/31/14 She files D: 1/9/15 She moves out 3/2/15 D papers served 3/18/15
