It takes a while to come to realisation they are just narc.
They don't care it was fake. Faked to make them the most important thing in the world.
Those abuse talks tigger me often to tears still, for my self not for him. Of how I wasted so much of the prime of my life with someone who truely didn't care. They didn't really care if you went bankrupt, didn't really care so long as their life continued happy and awesome and it was your job to provide the awesome.
There was nothing come back it was all dishy out one sided, you were expected to drop things when h had family drama. When we had family drama or deaths h resented the imposition on his life.
He couldn't sit quietly and just be. He couldn't offer support to anyone in any real way unless he was the center of the focus. He needed large serves of verbal praise and validation. He needed large amounts of touch and sex or he was desperately unhappy and projected for years that when these weren't to his liking that I was angry and cheating.
It's just a matter of seeing stuff, which does seem to repeat. The brd one hit wonder, but refused to give direct answers. I was left trying to chase down those answers seems people these days just bolt, they refuse to communicate if they are going to upset or feel the other party is upset. Seems to be over sensative and reactive.
Soooooo frustrating, when his words were all keen but his actions less so.
Cute dude as well! If I'm honnest rhc too. They are all keen to look and make big promises but none want to put actions behind their words.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
