Thanks for the answers to the questions and for the heartfelt post about your marriage and family.
It seems to me that your W is not able (or not interested) in holding down a job for the long-term based on what you wrote about her employment history. Does your W lose interest quickly?
Did your W enjoy the ranching lifestyle? Were there any complaints about ranching from W at all?
When you decided to change the ranching lifestyle....what jobs did you get for yourself?
One final question: when did W begin her current phone sex job? I may have missed it somewhere.
Sorry for these questions, but I am trying to gain a much clearer picture of your situation. This way, we will be able to offer some ideas and suggestions in DBing.
Thank you Wonka for spending the time with me.
No my wife is not able to hold a job for very long. She is a Sagitarius like me. She gets needs change I think. I am no where near as bad as she is. I have been at my job almost 10 years. I am not sure if she actually loses interest or wants to do something better. Usually something happens that causes her to change employment. Sports equipment- moved Western wear- moved Vet assistant- fired Assisted living- pregnant/ health issues
I think the wife enjoyed the ranching lifestyle. She only complained because I could never get time off. And we lived so far from town. It was a mutual decision to leave that life. We have talked about all the things I would have missed if I was still ranching. I have asked her several times over the past few years if she wanted to go back to it and she said no. We both are kinda bummed our younger kids did not get to experience some of that life.
I decided to change that lifestyle over 10 years ago. At the time W had a good job as vet assistant. We figured with her salary and me doing construction, we would have a good life. I went to work in construction, which I really liked and had some experience in. Than I got a job at a lumber yard here in town. Been here ever since. Have a good boss. Make good money. Get to be involved in all my family activities.
W began her current phone sex job the end of April 2014.
No need to apologize for the questions. I am so grateful for the help I have received on this forum. It is a life saver. I felt so alone before. Thank you for taking the time to work with me.
I had a great day! Got to coach my D basketball team in a tournament. I had so much fun. W actually acted like my W today. That was kinda nice. She actually had ring on also, which I was surprised. She looked very beautiful today. I was not sure if it was appropriate to comment on that. I did not want to seem like I was pursuing. She actually gave me a compliment too.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
