I need to get off this roller coaster. W has talked very friendly the last couple days then her and OM elevate their relationship in a hotel room. So today she texts D14 that she is out front so meet her there to leave. Never told me or came to say hi or nothing. I knew we would be doing a kid exchange but we always said hi.
Yes, the key is detachment.
Detachment is like a diet of the mind. With a regular diet (of food), you recognize that you WANT certain foods. You agree that they smell good and you remember how they taste (delicious!). BUT, despite all of that, you consciously choose to not indulge.
The beginning stages of detachment - that is, until you really start to move forward (but not inherently 'past') - are like this type of a diet. It's okay to admit you want certain things and that you miss certain things or certain people, you are just exercising a choice you have already made not to indulge in with this temptation. You are making a predetermined healthier choice until you reach your target goals.
Make the choice. Plan ahead. Live it out.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
