...and another WAS

[Pyrite]

hi Burger,

I think I am aware of exactly the role I played here. I can understand that she was unhappy in the R, because I was too. Her unhappiness was a direct result of my unhappiness. That might not make much sense, and it doesn't to me either really. But it was the way it was,and we can't change that now. This is a good time to try, the kids are a bit older etc, but she chose a path out, a new R. She didn't communicate until it was too late. I didn't communicate well then, and clearly not well in the beginning either. Actually I tried in the beginning. And I was shutdown. Again, I could've/should've reacted differently......

my issue now is that she has moved on, and is taking everything with her. I've been very hands on father. more than 50% once she has gone back to work on both occasions. + 90% of the house work, 100% of all other family work.

I am really down. I woke up after a few hours sleep. Whilst this has been the worst time in my life ever, this morning I felt for the first time it was going to be a real struggle to get through the day was coming. Not just an anxiety crazed struggle. I just want to cry on my Mums's shoulder. I dont even care about my W anymore. She has taken my life away.