Remember, it doesn't really matter. Its his battle to fight, you have your own. Who hes with, what hes doing, it only serves to drive you crazy if you try to figure it out.
Look at me, my W came home a few hours ago from work, took a shower, got dressed and said shes going out with friends tonight. We chatted for a while, it was all pleasant. She even put on her nice smelling lotions and sprays, and was in a very good mood. Last week she was in a noticeably bad state, so why the change?
Obviously I started to wonder and think, drive myself crazy for a min. Going over the possibilities in my head. Then I just stopped myself, which is what you have to do. It doesn't really matter. I might be able to find out more info if I snoop, but the cost to my sanity is too high to keep doing and any info I gain is all subject to interpretation anyway.
As for not knowing whats going on anymore with our spouses, who the F does here lol. None of us really know whats going on in our spouses heads. We can speculate at times and maybe draw some basic conclusions, but they may be completely wrong.
Think of it this way.
You know the infinite monkey theorem? It's basically saying that a monkey with infinite time smashing on a typewriter would eventually recreate the entire works of Shakespeare. Think of your H in a battle with that monkey in his head, fighting it out for control of the typewriter that controls his thoughts and actions. But, even he doesn't know who's in control of the typewriter at times. Chaos. Sometimes you see signs of what you want to see, then other signs that confuse the hell out of you. Is it the monkey or the H? Why try and figure it out if he doesn't. One day maybe he will wrestle back control of the typewriter from that monkey, until then just sit back and worry about you.
Maybe this isn't the best analogy, but its amusing me right now so ill just post it, lol.
Keep busy Cherry, you got this.
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
