Is he having an affair... possibly Does he want a sandwich... maybe Which socks will he wear tomorrow ... the white ones.
Its all mind reading and only giving us his latest behaviors there is little more than mindreading and guessing along with you as to what he is doing , where he is or with whom.
Thing is he has asked for the divorce already, quite possibly in his mind he is already single and loving as such. Is he having an A ... its possible, just as possible as he is eating a ham sandwich. My point here is you are wasting time worried about what he is doing when you have ZERO control over that, we can not control what they think, what they do nor with whom ... that's all on them.
Now is the time to start on you, that's what you can control. Read the books if you have not done so .... you will realize that this is more about you and less about your husband.
Do you want a D, are you trying to save the M? Counseling both MC and IC? Is he moving out? Its not about the OP ... if there is one ... its about what YOU want, what you will tolerate.
