Trying to Play it Cool Today

[Lorelai]

The one thing I would say is to have no expectations when you talk to your H. Keep going dark—friendly and polite, like you would be to a neighbor. Whenever I've written emails like the one above, my H has always pulled back, but that's my situation. My own H is completely withdrawn, living with his mom and not even close to resembling the man I married right now, so I've FINALLY figured out there's no getting through to him at this point. Hope this helps! Keep reading DR and keep posting. There's a lot of support here!