Boundaries are not supposed to be punitive. They are to protect you. If you feel you are protecting your interests and your self-respect, then it should be ok.
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It was tough to make those decisions, especially because I would love to have a complete weekend with the children, but then I would be the babysitter and would support her.
If you would love to have the whole weekend with the children, why don't you? True, you will be giving your W a break, but you have to stop thinking about the impact of your actions on her. Your relationship with your children is very important. Don't sacrifice it because you are afraid your wife will perceive it as helping her. Rather start being koalada-centric. Think about what will make you happy- and do it.
