Ggrass - the thing you've said that I identify with is the H feigning that we are in control, bowling them over, etc. The Nice Guy. Check out a resource Vanilla pointed to me by the name of a Turtle online, about 'passive master.' It was eye opening.


Mid 30's
Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH
D 9/15; NC forever on

You can't DR your way out of abuse.