I went with the DR book as well. I still re-read chapters when I have some down time.
I'm in a similar situation as you are. Just kind of waiting, I'm in limbo, I'm on the roller coaster of emotions.
I'm just moving forward with my GAL activities, continuing to learn more about relationships, doing some hard work on myself with a great therapist to make me better as a person. Trying to have patience and not pursue her.
Someone told me that I will 'just know' when it is time to truly let her go and move on.
I will start on this as soon as I get home.
VENTING! It just sux that she was the one who left, broke her vows, shattered trust, reneged on commitment, subjected the whole family to this without even 1 MC session or discussion AND now it looks like she is gonna get everything she wanted. And then I (we) am(are) the ones left with pieces and pictures, left to therapy and fixing what is so wrong with us. In my case, likely kids taken away, blah blah. And I am supposed to forgive her? What is she doing for me? I have given up everything, and now I am supposed to ice it? For my own sanity?
