I went with the DR book as well. I still re-read chapters when I have some down time.
I'm in a similar situation as you are. Just kind of waiting, I'm in limbo, I'm on the roller coaster of emotions.
I'm just moving forward with my GAL activities, continuing to learn more about relationships, doing some hard work on myself with a great therapist to make me better as a person. Trying to have patience and not pursue her.
Someone told me that I will 'just know' when it is time to truly let her go and move on.
Me:43, WW:45 2 Kids: 21,22 Married: 23 Years Bomb: 01/2015 Separate Bedrooms: 02/2015 She left: 03/2015