Hey labug, Here's something I don't quite know what to do with-- I read MWD's FB page and tweets. They make so much sense to ME, but of course I'm not the one who needs to hear it right now. But there is no way for me to get STBX to pay attention to what she says, much less for him to believe what she believes. So, it's both hopeful and frustrating to read her words/watch her videos. Does that make sense?
Looking forward to a few days off- going away with some girlfriends next weekend woo hoo!
How do you know you're not the one who needs to hear it right now?
I thought for a long time, if only H would read this, see that, hear the other, then things would be grand.
Guess what? I was still trying to fix him. I wanted to judge him as being wrong which then made me right to my way of thinking.
When I focus on fixing someone else I don't have to look closely at me.
Continue to read or watch but not with the intent to fix him. Ask instead, what can I learn from this. If there's nothing then I guess you can let go of watching them.
If watching them keeps you stuck in the blame game, then let it go.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
