You are in my thoughts phunguy. I am in no position to give advice. It does sound like you are thinking clear. I also have been thinking back on my marriage. In times like these it is hard to remember the good times. This whole process is tough to deal with, but I believe we are coming out as better men and will be better husbands next go round. You are in my prayers.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"